3 Ways My Husband Is Supporting Me During This Pregnancy

This pregnancy feels completely different from the first. We’re not just imagining what life as parents will be like—we’re living it in real time with a toddler who has big feelings, endless energy, and a front-row seat to all the changes.

In the middle of the chaos, my husband has stepped up in some beautiful, intentional ways. He’s not just supporting me physically, but emotionally and practically, as we prepare to welcome another little one.

Here are 3 ways my husband is supporting me during this pregnancy as a second-time dad:

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1. He Shows Up to Appointments (Even When He Couldn’t Before)

With our first, he wasn’t always able to be at every appointment. Schedules, work, and the unpredictability of life made it harder for him to be there physically, even though he cared deeply.

This time around, he’s made it a priority to attend appointments whenever he can:

• He arranges his schedule so he can be there for checkups and ultrasounds.
• He listens to the updates, asks questions, and remembers details with me.
• He’s present—not just in body, but in attention and interest.

There’s something really comforting about sitting in our midwife’s office and not being alone. Hearing the heartbeat together, looking at the ultrasound screen together, and processing the information together makes this feel like our pregnancy, not just mine.

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2. He Takes Over Bedtime, Night Wakings, and Extra Housework

Let’s be honest: by the end of the day, pregnancy exhaustion hits differently—especially when I’ve been chasing a toddler around.

One of the biggest ways he’s supporting me is by stepping in when my tank is empty:

• He takes over bedtime routines so I can rest, put my feet up, or go to bed early.
• When there are night wakings, he’s often the one getting up so I don’t have to drag my pregnant body out of bed again.
• He handles extra housework—dishes, laundry, picking up toys—without making it a big deal or keeping score.

These might not be the grand, flashy gestures that movies show, but they are the kind of quiet, consistent acts of love that make pregnancy survivable—and even peaceful—on the hard days.

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3. He’s Taken the Lead With Our Toddler

One of the sweetest (and most practical) forms of support has been the way he’s stepped up with our toddler.

He’s really taken the lead in being the “fun parent” right now:

• There’s lots of rough housing when I can’t comfortably roll around on the floor or wrestle like I used to.
• He takes our toddler on special “Daddy adventures”—walks, store runs, playground visits, little outings that are just theirs.
• Their bond has really grown during this season, and it’s so beautiful to watch.

Knowing that our toddler is getting so much love, attention, and secure connection from him eases so much of the guilt I might feel about needing to slow down. It reminds me that even if I’m not able to do everything right now, our child is more than cared for.

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Closing Thoughts

Support during pregnancy doesn’t always look like grand gestures. Sometimes it looks like:

• Sitting beside you in the waiting room
• Handling another bedtime so you can rest
• Chasing a laughing toddler around the playground while you catch your breath

As we get ready to become parents of two, I’m more aware than ever that I don’t have to do this alone. My body is growing this baby, but we are growing this family together.

If you’re in a similar season, I hope you feel supported in these small-but-huge ways too. And if you’re a partner wondering how to help—start here. Show up to the appointments, take over the routines, lean into the time with your toddler. Those everyday choices mean more than you know.